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I support Abortion.

I do not support it as birth control, I do not think women should use abortions as a “get out of parenthood free” card because they choose not to use condoms or any other form of birth control. I believe abortions should be monitored and policed, a limitation set, investigations made, because, yes, some women DO use it as birth control.

HOWEVER.

Women have every right to have sex for pleasure as men do.

When a woman gets unexpectedly pregnant, the father is not FORCED to participate in the child’s life. Their body does not spend 9 months going through changes, they are not forced to endure the carrying, the birth, the raising of the child. In some cases, they must give money, but they are not required to by law. Why should a man be allowed to have sex for pleasure with no risk for responsibilities?

If I went out tomorrow, had sex, and took every precaution but still ended up pregnant, I’M the one considered to be responsible, slutty, the one who’s body is POLICED. Not the man I slept with. He has the freedom to go and have sex no questions asked because his body cannot carry a child. I’M the one expected to not have sex until I’m ready to have a baby. I’M the one who is not permitted sex for pleasure because if something goes wrong, I’m the one with the baby that can be aborted.

Men have nothing but legal responsibilities for a child, and even then, they can skirt those with ease. They do not carry it. Do not birth it. If they choose not to, they do not have to have a thing to do with it after conception.

The woman does.

WOMEN. HAVE EVERY RIGHT. TO HAVE SEX FOR PLEASURE. AS MEN.

If I want to get laid, I shouldn’t have to think about the condom breaking, or my pill not working, or the implant not holding out. I should be able to think that I took every precaution I could and I something went wrong and I have options available to me. If I am not financially stable, emotionally stable enough to raise a child in a healthy, happy environment, then I should not be forced to endure it. There are far too many children in the world who are unwanted.

I should be able to go into a clinic, explain that the condom broke, that I am on the pill, that I have done what I can to prevent this. Explain that I am not ready for a child, that I have no health insurance, that I don’t want it, and with perhaps a bit more policing - a check into my history for recent “activity”,  my birth control records - be given Plan B or an appointment to have it “terminated”.

Should abortions be given all the time? No. Abortions are tough decisions that women go through, a lot of thought is given to most of them.

If a women is unwilling to use another form of birth control, or condoms, or is coming in for abortions every six months, then look into her. Suggest medications, operations, things that can make it so she doesn’t have the risk of pregnancy. Offer these to her affordably, give her an opportunity, don’t just TELL her she is not permitted to have sex. Everyone has the right to have sex.

No man can force me to have a child. If I got pregnant tomorrow, I would get an abortion and I am not sorry about that. I cannot raise a child right now. I cannot offer it all that I’d want to. And I would HATE that child because I would not WANT it. I know as I am that I would be a terrible mother and I will not submit a baby to that, I’m not ready to give up my life for someone else yet, but one day I will be. If abortions were illegal, I would risk a back alley one.

We are beyond the times of “natural responsibilities” being attached to sex. This is why we have birth control. Human beings have sex for pleasure and do what they can to prevent pregnancy, society evolved for that. You don’t want an abortion? Don’t get one. But do not believe that you have any right to tell me that I cannot have one or that I am forced to keep a child out of “natural responsibility” because I wanted sex.

You wouldn’t say it to a man, don’t say it to me.